Category Archives: The Mechanics of Apology

What’s “Burn in hell” in the language of flowers?

Recently SorryWatch was doing the New York Times crossword puzzle. (5/26/16.) Spotting the clue “A white one is said to symbolize ‘I’m sorry’,” we thought we had it nailed. Yellow roses mean ‘I’m sorry’! Well, no. We had to figure … Continue reading

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More on the science of apology

Time to look at a new “how to apologize” study! The paper, called “An Exploration of the Structure of Effective Apologies,” will be published in the May 2016 issue of Negotiation and Conflict Management Research. (You can read the abstract online.) The … Continue reading

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Apologize to your mother

(It turns out Snarly and Sumac have slightly different apology approaches, as you’ll see.) Here at SorryWatch we are grieved and intrigued* to find that not everyone agrees about the goodness of good apologies. There are many reasons for this … Continue reading

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Hey, watch it!

Columbus Circle station, early summer, bench. Young black guy, cool hipsterish clothes, large backpack, amusingly be-patched (does he really belong to Lehigh Valley Police Revolver League?), subtly spray-painted (faint black shading on light khaki), iPod, iPhone. 50ish white lady, peculiar … Continue reading

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Sorry for my 49% of what went wrong

Tim Cook, CEO of Apple Inc., went on The Late Show With Stephen Colbert. Lots of iPhone jokes. Asked about the latest Steve Jobs movie, he said he hadn’t seen any of them, but “I think that a lot of … Continue reading

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When you run a confessional, you hear some awful things

Burning Man 2015 is close at hand. It’ll be a great time for many, a mind-altering time for some. Remarkable things will be seen and done. Also regrettable things. In 2013, SorryWatch visited PlayaApology Camp at Burning Man. PlayaApology Camp … Continue reading

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Let’s all listen to Orlando Jones

Mr. Jones, a fine actor on the first-season-was-awesome-and-then-oh-GOD-but-I’m-not-giving-up-yet television program Sleepy Hollow, is known for his skilled use of social media. He has, however, not always knocked his social-media apologies out of the park, as we have discussed on this … Continue reading

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Sorry I ignored you, your lovely gift, and That Email

Anonymous in Annapolis (not her real name) writes: How about a relative who sends you an apology for not acknowledging you at the holidays because they were too busy and saving for their retirement and, besides, the e-mail you sent … Continue reading

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My personal space is filled with rage

Dear SorryWatch: Boarding a plane recently, an already seated passenger complained that my bag hit his face. I said I was really sorry. Later, exiting, I apologized again: I’m very sorry. I just got so distracted. He said “yeah.” Was … Continue reading

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Jon Stewart on apology vs regret

Jon Stewart was amusant last week in a report about the St. Louis Rams’s “Hands Up, Don’t Shoot” gesture. We shall now weigh in with our analysis belatedly, as is our frequent wont. We are busy ladies.  

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